Reasons Why I Love You: It’s the Little Things

          
What was the first thing you liked about him?

Think back to the first time you met. What details do you remember about that moment? What was your impression of him? Was he funny? Was he generous, intelligent? First impressions come from body language, the way people carry themselves. There was something about him that drew you in. What exactly was it that made him stand out from the crowd?
Maybe he noticed you and made the first step to strike up a conversation. When you first met, was it love at first sight or did you warm up to him after you got to know him? What did he do that gave you butterflies? Maybe it was when he first told you he liked you or when he first asked you out and held your hand? Now look, you have already begun to unlock one of the biggest things you love about him.

How is he different than everyone else?

Something made him stand out and seem different from everyone else. Did he not care what people thought about him? Did he do something to show how kind he was? Why did your brain tell you that there was indeed something different about this odd bird?
Men all have peculiar behaviors and habits, but some of them are actually endearing. Did you fall in love with him at school? Was he the brainiac, or maybe you saw him from a far and were impressed with something he was really dedicated to and good at?
There are umpteen reasons a man might stand out in your eyes, and perhaps you haven’t put your finger on what that was about him yet, but for some reason, your subconscious brain picked this one. Perhaps he is your polar opposite and balances you out. Maybe he really is different than everyone else. Does he walk to the beat of his own drum? Maybe he dresses differently or speaks differently. Perhaps it was that accent that drew your attention.
Taking time to tell your partner why you feel he is different than everyone else can build trust and strengthen your relationship because you’re making him feel secure. It can make him understand that you really do feel like he is the best man for you.

What cute quirks do you adore?

This is a great question because perhaps there is something he is self-conscious about, but you actually adore. Maybe he has an unexplained phobia or a habit of arranging the coffee mugs upside down with the handles facing the wrong way. What does he do that makes you giggle? Maybe you can show him how much you’re paying attention and how much you’re listening to what he says.
When you tell him why you love everything about him, he is going to start thinking about what he likes about you, so you also inspire him to fall in love with you all over again. This little exercise can bring a lot of romance and positive energy into your relationship.

Do you love his sense of humor?

Is your man a positive beacon of smiling goodness? Does he always make you laugh? Having a sense of humor is a trait that is often undervalued but shouldn’t be. If we take ourselves too seriously or are high strung, it can lead to all sorts of problems.
Does your man help you lighten up? If so, ladies it’s time to acknowledge his efforts to get you gut busting. Sometimes just simply acknowledging his personality will help brighten his day. Remember, it’s the little things that keep relationships going.
The more we focus on what we like about him, the less time we have to focus on what we’re not quite crazy about. We are training ourselves in this process to be positive thinkers. See, it’s more valuable than you thought.

What are the interesting little things he does?

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Do you love how he goes out of his way to make you feel special? Does he buy you a rose just because? Does he sometimes get up early to make you coffee? Does he surprise you by washing your car or doing the laundry? Does he know how to calm you down when you’re worked up by making you smile and forget about what was bothering you?
The little things chock up to a lifetime. One moment feeds into one hour, and hours build up to our days, and gathering them, slowly a year passes. His little efforts, moment by moment, have kept you smiling and kept your relationship strong. Have you thanked him for being awesome lately?

Do you like his passion?

Are you attracted to how passionate he is about collecting silent films or how he knows so much about every team that won the super bowl since your dad was born? What is he passionate about that attracted you to him more?
Does he go out of his way to help children or maybe he’s a foodie and makes unbelievable dinners that knock your socks off. If he is passionate about something and dedicated to learning everything he can about it, it’s a good sign he can be dedicated and grow as a person.
Many times we like how men are just crazy about something, even if it’s a bit absurd. Does he love to travel or kiteboard? Is he passionate about being a loyal and dedicated friend? Does he show up to support his friends at their band performances always, even if they are terrible?
Perhaps you are now realizing his love for craft brew is one of the reasons why you like him, and it’s not that you’re head over heels for a good lager; it’s that he is so passionate about something.

Do you like how he treats family?

Some men treat their mothers and sisters like queens and it shows us they are capable of selfless love. Maybe he drops everything when his grandmother needs something. Think about how his relationship with his family attract you to him? Every good man has strong relationships with people he loves, even if it’s a pseudo family.
Perhaps he just has a few close friends nearby that he is there for and treats them like family. What does he sacrifice for others?
You can see how he would be in your own family by how he treats those that are closest to him. Does he check in with them to see how they are doing or surprise them on their birthday? Does he try to make their life easier in certain endearing ways?

Which of his traits stand out to you?

Is he a risk taker? Does he show other people who’s boss? What inspires you about him? What are you able to learn from him? Is he incredibly kind or maybe he doesn’t back down to people who try to take advantage of his kind nature? Is he extremely patient and never loses his cool?
Sit with this one for a little while and you might really start to feel that connection between the two of you building. When you recognize what you respect about him the most and let him know, he will feel proud to be with you. Also, when you focus on a man’s positive traits, he will also focus on them more and let them come out.
It’s as if you were building a foundation for his good traits to grow stronger. Not that you are being manipulative, you’re just noticing, paying attention, being supportive and appreciative.

What attracts you to him most?

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What is your absolutely favorite thing about this man? Is he the best darn barista you’ve ever met? Does he have a killer hipster beard or maybe he’s a great guitar player? Does he have eyes that pierce right through your soul to the very core of your being?
There is something that makes you crazy about this man and it’s that one magical ingredient that makes him uniquely above the cream of the crop.
Perhaps it’s his intellect. Does he read like a maniac and provide interesting facts for you about current events at all hours of the night? Do you like that he had his kindle case engraved? Does his boot fetish match your fixation with heels? What is it that makes the fire burn between the two of you? This is the deep soul searching par

Why is he the perfect match for you?

Alas, we arrive at the pinnacle of this quest. Now that we have separated exact reasons for your attraction to this unique man, we now know why he is the perfect match for you. How will you present this epiphany to him? Perhaps you’ll do it in a song?
Maybe rent a plane that will write it in the air? Maybe get him a cake that says: you’re the perfect man for me? Maybe just tell him over a romantic dinner? Perhaps one of those paper cards they sell in stores will suffice? When you’re looking to surprise your man, just remember, if you wouldn’t be excited about it, he probably won’t be either.
What is the goal we want to get to with answering all these questions? There’s more than one reason. It hits a reset button for you mentally and will build a stronger emotional bond between the two of you.
Emotions are the most powerful thing in the world, recent studies show emotions create thought forms, and thoughts have a measurable wavelength that is faster than the speed of light or sound. What does that mean? It means our thoughts are fueled with emotions. Emotions are the core of everything.
The more we build up our positive emotions like love, appreciation, adoration and respect, the better our lives and the world become. Not to get all John Lennon on you, but hey let’s do it anyway. When Yoko Ono and John Lennon were together, they were unstoppable.
Many historic couples were actually a force to be reckoned with. You and your man have an energy together that has the ability to fuel your passions and bring out your best, most powerful self. You can focus on the things he is good at, and the things that fire you up about him to build that fire.
Can a relationship inspire you to change the world? Of course it can, and it should. Relationships are in the most basic sense, an exchange of energy. When you support each other to take logical and grounded decisions that lead you toward your goals, you become your best selves. When you support each other in the process of growth, discovery and mastery, you can become what you dreamed of.
Relationships can be the catalyst for great things and should no longer be looked at as something that stunts personal growth. People often get lazy in relationships and let go of the things they were so passionate about when they were single.
Don’t ever get to that point where you let go of yourself in a relationship. Keep that inner force that attracted him to you, get in touch with it every day, and you will keep your relationship more alive than ever and each day will bring you closer.
Remember to show him you love him, tell him you love him and why. Make him feel special always and build that fire. Don’t be shy, make a move! Show him you noticed all the little things he’s done, the effort he makes, the kindness he has shown to strangers, when he’s taken the trash out or brought you soup when you were sick. Showing appreciation is good for the soul and for our relationships.
I would love for you to share your thoughts or experiences applying this information in the comments below